misogyny is celebrated

misogyny is enamored by us

boys will be boys , they said

but she is a girl, why not………..

endless improvement suggestions

pushed down our throats

why can’t you keep your husband straight, you have failed

see so and so her husband doesn’t do this, why not………….

why is he beating her,  she is not clean

she does not know how to keep a man

why will he, if she had been coy, sweet talker, better cook

better yet always improving herself

Be more patient, are you praying ?

while no effort is made over there,

so i say, why not….he…………….

can she clap with one hand ?

better yet, is he still a child ?

endless rhetorical questions




For I am human #autism — Discover

Thoughts from Sonia Boue: “My humanness is not other — it is a parallelogram of your humanness. A mirror in which to see yourself (at times).”

via For I am human #autism — Discover

Monotonous life

Admit it we all live monotonous lives no matter how much drama you try to create (sorry not really) i mean the amount of spice you add into your favourite stew, perhaps you chose a different way to school or work, maybe changed your breakfast yesterday and decided to go out with a different friend next week, well your life is most likely still monotonous

dull, tedious, and repetitious; lacking in variety and interest.
the statistics that he quotes with monotonous regularity”
synonyms: tedious, boring, dull, uninteresting, unexciting, wearisome, tiresome, uninvolving, repetitive, repetitious, unvarying, unchanging, unvaried, humdrum, ho-hum, routine, mechanical, mind-numbing, soul-destroying; More
antonyms: interesting
(of a sound or utterance) lacking in variation in tone or pitch.
“soon we heard a low, monotonous wailing of many voices”
synonyms: toneless, flat, uninflected, soporific
“a monotonous voice”

You still brush your teeth every morning and night,  I still shower everyday in the same bathroom, eat food with same staples yet different spices or cooking methods, so I’ve decided to pack up and leave…………“lol” i used to hate this word and a poem about it will most likely be up around next week inshAllah and my adventures at cake decorating and driving lessons with my unpaid teacher AYA.



haha BYe!

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World Sickle Cell Day

Hello everyone yesterday was World Sickle cell day, and i just could not believe it, now am wondering if I should start the whole break the cycle campaign by knowing your genotype, or to actually give my essay on living with sickle cell Anaemia. Phew! I can only say that it has been a hassle but it is a constant struggle and I am still learning to live with it. So long story short, sickle cell Anaemia is a genetic disorder that results in the red blood cells changing shape from an oval/round shape to a sickled shape which causes obstruction in the blood vessels, and obstruction causes pain, inflammation and severe tissue or organ damage, the thing is it can affect any organ or multiple organs at the same time. But the main hassle for most sufferers is the pain, chronic is an understatement and I don’t wish to go into it because it is unexplainable. It is so damn painful, sometimes requiring the most powerful pain relievers when in a crisis such as opioids, morphine etc and it lasts for a few days, the frequency of a crisis depends on individual, mine used to go like 3 to 4 times a year, that was the frequency of my hospitalization but recently it has increased to about 6 times or more a year. Anaemia is also a big problem because it causes fatigue which makes it difficult to live up to many expectations, like sports or going out. images-12 this is the pain in a picture, i no longer cry though, the pain is too much. Most importantly people don’t understand when you are missing or MIA in school and many things like going out, they can’t seem to understand how 5 minutes ago i was fine, now i need to rush to the ER, but that is how the condition is, you plan your life around it, sometimes it just comes in-between everything and can put a stop to anything from your birthday party to even a wedding ! it can come anytime, anywhere and you will give in when that excruciating I can’t talk pain grips you. It also keeps you behind your peers, socially i can’t seem to catch up and it has helped make me an introvert because here is the thing, Pre hospitalization, you are at home in pain, hospitalization you are in hospital, post-hospitalization you are still trying to heal from fatigue and left over pain from the hospital, trying to avoid crisis triggers. Later on complications begin to arise for me my Avascular necrosis set out 2 years ago affecting my hip bones and i may have to have a hip replacement in the next few years, I also have a non active spleen and gall bladder, constipation and other problems. Over all it is a hassle and can lead to depression but all i would say is know your genotype before marriage else your children may have this chronic condition, happy world sickle cell day to all my fellow warriors, their parents, families and friends. We can do it ! more grease to your elbows Lets break the cycle and end the silence, Perhaps even find a cure ! Bye